It’s the week of opposites. I have to say it's a little frustrating in a way having to argue for something that I do not whole-heartedly agree with. But I don’t really have a choice do I? I’m trying to psych myself that pornography is the theory, and rape the practice. Okay, maybe it’s not at all that difficult.
Let’s see, Morgan mentioned that the context of rape really depends on what the society finds acceptable. But her belief is that of “rape exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman out of her own genuine affection and desire.” Of course, certainly! However when you read further into the meaning of the sentence, and the article of course, the phrase begins to take on another perspective. Women, who engage in sexual intercourse without the compassion and want, are deeming to be raped. If the law takes on this explanation for rape, I dare say that every single woman on this planet has been raped at least once if not multiple times. This explanation may seem outrageous, even downright amusing to some. Wait, hear me out!
In our typical rape, the victim is frequently traumatized more psychologically rather than physically. The flesh wound heals, but the distress and suffering of the mind is what’s affected most. The same holds true for women who have sex not out of genuine affection and desire. This may possibly sound absurd but a happy healthy relationship does not require constant sex. I would rather have my woman clawing and hungering for me, than lie on her back like a dead fish when doing the deed. If women feel the need to have sex just to keep their partner happy, there exists some level of stress. It then becomes a form of emotional disturbance, although different from that of a rape victim. Porn portrays women as sex-crazed individuals which is really not the case for most women. Porn is most often targeted at the male population. That said, fact and fiction slowly becomes a blur.
April 11, 2006 at 6:57 pm |
[...] I’m so glad we have blogs like PourNoCoffee because the post Kudos to Morgan really made me want to say my true feelings about the Morgan article. I agree that rape is a evil thing, but I found it so difficult to write in favor of an article that seems to believe that almost all women have been raped at some point. Of course with the exception of women not yet having sex. It’s not that I belive it’s ok for husbands to pressure their wives into having sex or for boyfriends to make their girlfriends feel guilty for not wanting to, but I definately think it’s not even in the same ballpark as rape. There’s not many wives that need years of therapy after having sex with their husband just to shut him up. Would Tori Amos make good music if her boyfriend simply guilted her into having sex? I think rape is a very horrible thing, but it is what it is. In fact all those experts say that rape isn’t even about sex, it’s about control. That leads me to say that this article was completely wrong, because porn is definately about sex. Try to connect them all you want, but I will never really agree. I just had to pretend to for one post. [...]